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Recovering from the Death of a Loved One

The death of a loved one can send even the most stable of people into a tailspin. The event can cause emotional damage and effect everyday life. Someone dealing with this type of loss might find themselves withdrawing from social activities, not eating, engaging in dangerous behaviours, and slacking off at work or school. 

Luckily, there are a few things that can help ease this pain. To help you if you’re dealing with this loss, here are a few tips and tricks to help you find peace after the death of a loved one. Of course, if you need professional help don't hesitate to seek out appropriate psychological therapy.

Sharing

When dealing with an intense loss, it’s not uncommon to clam up. By this, I mean that it’s not uncommon to withdraw and avoid talking about the loss and feelings that may be associated with it. Although talking about it can be hard and bring on strong feelings of sadness, it’s often beneficial in the long run. According to psychologists and studies that have been conducted, sharing feelings and discussing them can make the recovery process go more smoothly and even reduce feelings of anxiety and loneliness. 

Count your blessings

Counting your blessings can be hard to do when your mind is chalked full of negative thoughts and emotions, but if you can manage it, make a list of what you have to be thankful for. Whether it’s a physical, handwritten list, or a list that is easy to remember and store in your head, reminding yourself of all that you have to be happy about can help fend off depression and negative thoughts. 

Helping others

Despite feeling like you want to curl up in a corner and stay there forever, it can be a good idea to reach out to others who have been effected by the death of your loved one. By helping other people feel better, you’re making yourself feel better (regardless of whether you know it or not). Helping people is known for aiding in the healing process, as it releases good chemicals and feelings within our brain. 

Take time out

Sometimes, when we’re dealing with a big loss, we overwork ourselves in an attempt to keep the sad thoughts and unwanted feelings at bay. This can make us incredibly productive, but slow down our recovery time by taking away important time that should be spent dealing with the loss. Taking time out by taking time off of work, or going to a retreat for a weekend getaway, can be the thing that jumpstarts the healing process. A weekend retreat at an established centre like St Michael’s Retreat in Alberta can help to clear the mind. 

The loss of a loved one is always hard and is often even harder to accept. By using the above tips, however, you might get the healing process started sooner. If you want more information on healing after the death of a loved one, consider visiting the links below as they are full of useful information and lead to valuable resources. 

https://www.griefshare.org/

http://www.cmha.ca/mental-health/your-mental-health/grief/

Lilly Haswell